One Daughter’s Emotional Letter to Her Birth Mom

No matter how much we may be “mom” our children still will wonder about the woman who gave her birth and then entrusted her to someone else to raise. In this emotional letter to a birth mom written by Cathy Wallis, 39,
she expresses her many emotions and questions.

• If you ever wondered if I was happy, I was.
• Growing up I suppose I had a natural curiosity about who you were. I always had access to my adoption files and it said that I had a brother, Stephen, in Ireland. If I’m honest that’s who I’d wonder the most about.
• It was only when I was pregnant that I really got thinking about you. Especially when doctors asked me questions about my medical history.
• The really life-changing moment was when I laid my eyes on my first child. Marcus was so, so cute. I sat there in hospital looking at Marcus, knowing I could never leave him.It made me think what awful thing was happening in your life that made you walk out on me that day.
• I’ ve never felt anger, just this huge question mark. How bad were things for you that you couldn’t take me with you?
• >>read the rest of the letter here

It’s vital as adoptive parents that we always acknowledge that whether our child has an open adoption with her birthmom, or has no information at all, this woman still holds a place in her heart. Be there to listen. Don’t be envious of her thoughts about her birthmom. She will never stop being your daughter.